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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/flashcount-diary</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-27</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life - Darcey Steinke - Bookshelf: Midlife perspectives</image:title>
      <image:caption>According to her Twitter bio, Steinke is: Novelist. Essayist. Fanatic Reader. Arm Chair Theologian. Teacher. Princeton, Columbia,The New School &amp; The American University of Paris. Born in 1962, she also suffered epic menopause symptoms during her “change”: relentless hot flashes, insomnia and depression. She lived to write about it in Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life, part history lesson, evolutionary perspective and feminist manifesto. Steinke writes that 17th century hot-flashing women were believed to be witches (really?!) and her surprise to learn that human females and female killer whales are the only creatures that go through menopause. While some reviewers found it “depressing” (er, she admits menopause triggered depression,) we found it honest, raw and bittersweet – feelings that most of life’s major transitions trigger – but perhaps more so for transitions that are nearer to our end than our beginning. We certainly share the perspective of one of her author/reviewers, Samantha Hunt, author of The Dark Dark and Mr. Splitfoot: “For what Darcey Steinke has just taught me about my own body—all of our bodies—I will love her eternally. After readings bits of Flash Count Diary aloud to my twelve-year-old, she confided in me, “I can’t wait for menopause.” This fearless and fiercely intelligent book needs to be read by every woman, man and child as it explores and explodes ideas about aging, desire, our wildness, and our wonder.” Yes, yes and yes: we MUST teach our daughters, nieces, young friends, godchildren, students that menopause is another of life’s great and natural transitions that is made better by talking about it, sharing experiences and, ultimately, harnessing it for the power it can bring. Quote we love: At times I feel another body slipping out from my original one…This sensation is alienating but also oddly thrilling. For decades I’ve tried, mostly unsuccessfully, to get out of the way so the force of the universe could use me as a conduit. Only recently, with the onset of menopause and the breakdown of my former identity, do I finally feel I am making a little progress.” —</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/i-feel-bad-about-my-neck</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-10</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - I Feel Bad About My Neck - Nora Ephron - Bookshelf: Midlife perspectives</image:title>
      <image:caption>Nora Ephron’s 2006 book is, I guess, now one of the “classics” on midlife women and aging. And despite its title (and one of our favorite quotes below) it is not focused solely on the trials and tribulations of the aging neck. In the very readable and short 160 pages, Ephron muses on many topics that she’s viewing with a different lens in her mid-50’s, the age she was at the time of writing. Everything from her hatred of purses, to serial monogamy to parenting. A particularly amusing chapter is the one on “maintenance” – about the increasing amount of daily, monthly and annual maintenance many people go through to maintain a youthful appearance. I deeply agree with her insight on hair dye and it being the reason 40, 50, 60 and beyond no longer “look” like those ages. She goes on to surmise that hair dye is the most powerful weapon older women have against “youth culture” and is at least partly responsible for women keeping their jobs into middle/late middle age. Sad, but true. A quick, relatable and humorous weekend read. “According to my dermatologist, the neck starts to go at forty-three, and that’s that. You can put makeup on your face and concealer under your eyes and dye on your hair, you can shoot collagen and Botox and Restylane into your wrinkles and creases, but short of surgery, there’s not a damn thing you can do about a neck. The neck is a dead giveaway. Our faces are lies and our necks are the truth. You have to cut open a redwood tree to see how old it is, but you wouldn’t have to if it had a neck.”</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/menopause-manifesto</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-28</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - The Menopause Manifesto - Dr. Jen Gunter - Bookshelf: Midlife perspectives</image:title>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/dance-of-anger</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-10</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - Dance of Anger - Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. - Bookshelf: Mood &amp; Brain</image:title>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/why-we-cant-sleep</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-13</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - Why We Can't Sleep - Bookshelf: Midlife perspectives</image:title>
      <image:caption>Ada Calhoun wrote this oh-so-aptly named book when she started to experience the triple threat of midlife women in Generation X (born between 1965 and 1980): poor sleep, overwhelm and a general feeling of “is this it?” She digs deep into the research and the myths about this generation, one that she writes is the first “raised from birth hearing the tired cliché “having it all” – then discovering as adults it is very hard to have even some of it. Calhoun interviewed 200 women in the U.S. from a wide range of economic, racial and religious backgrounds: single, married, childless, gay and straight. She notes that she specifically didn’t focus on the very poor, as unfortunately the burdens they are under in this country are too big for the scope of her book. She also skipped the very rich, choosing to focus on women in the middle class who “grew up with reasonable expectations of opportunity and success.” Despite these omissions, she gives readers a wide perspective on this segment of Gen X’s version of midlife trials and opportunities. If you’re a Gen X’er – or on the edges of this generation – you will likely recognize yourself in the pages. And, since women of this generation aren’t accustomed to talking about midlife and menopause issues, perhaps reading the experiences of the women in this book will leave you feeling like you just had one of those long, honest chats with a best friend about your deepest fears and long-held desires. Quote we love: “If the first piece of a solution is getting support and the second is reframing our life to remove unrealistic expectations, the third might be…waiting. One day, midlife will end. Kids will grow up; relationships will evolve. Women in their fifties and sixties tell me that after menopause they felt so much better–less nervous, more confident, no longer afraid of looking stupid.”</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/the-beautiful-no</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-13</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - The Beautiful No - Bookshelf: Midlife perspectives</image:title>
      <image:caption>I bought this as an audiobook because I’d been “introduced” to Sheri Salata via audio, on her now-defunct podcast, The Sheri and Nancy Show (formerly This is 50.) It was a fabulous podcast that was grounded in the easy rapport of the two women, friends for more than 30 years. Their humor and honesty about the challenges of midlife – and their dogged determination to continue on a path of growth in all areas of their lives was inspiring in a less-than-inspired time of my life. Sheri was the executive producer of The Oprah Show and certainly learned a lot about deep dives, how to expertly interview guests and to keep her audience entertained. The book definitely benefits from her voice reading the words. And it is indeed beautiful. A clear-eyed look back at the events in her life that seemed “bad” or tragic or insignificant at the time but traced to a more beautiful outcome she could never have predicted or engineered. The breadcrumbs of our lives, the soft whispers and the plain dumb luck that land us in the most unexpected of places. It’s a lesson of sorts, told through the map of Sheri’s life, so far, and with wit and wisdom. Quote we love: “We’ve known for a while we are onto something that feels like a major shift, and now it’s coming into focus. We feel better just talking about it. There is a fresh current in the air, a crackling electricity. All our talk is evolving into a new vision for our lives, a new vision for the middle of life. A conviction that it’s never, ever, ever, ever too late to make the rest of your dreams come true. And if not now, when? Furthermore, if not now, maybe never. We are hearing our own message loud and clear.”</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/the-hormone-cure</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-28</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - The Hormone Cure - Dr. Sara Gottfried - Bookshelf: Your hormones</image:title>
      <image:caption>OK, this one is a bit of a doozy. It’s c-o-m-p-r-e-h-e-n-s-i-v-e and a fantastic primer on all things hormones for our readers who like to dive in deep. Published in 2014, Dr. Gottfried adds to and modernizes the solutions that women like actress Suzanne Somers (really, Google her + “hormones”) and Dr. Christiane Northrup – who writes the forward to The Hormone Cure – paved years ago. A Harvard Medical School graduate, board-certified gynecologist, certified yoga practitioner and all-around type A super achiever, Dr. Gottfried shares her personal story about hormone imbalance, stress and weight issues and covers the causes and solutions for women searching for solutions. This book works for younger people with hormonal issues, those in peri-menopause, menopause and beyond. Quote we love: “The best time to get and stay healthy is before you face annoying and inconvenient problems, such as weight gain and mood swings, and before you develop a serious health condition, such as depression or breast cancer.”</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/the-female-brain</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-13</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - The Female Brain - Bookshelf: Mood &amp; brain</image:title>
      <image:caption>Published in 2007, a New York Times bestseller and translated into more than 30 languages, Dr. Brizendine’s book struck a chord and stands the test of time for those interested in a more scholarly explanation of what-the-F is going on in our brains. A Yale-trained neuropsychiatrist and former Harvard Medical School faculty member, Brizendine digs deep into how our hormones determine what our brains are interested in and good at doing in different phases of our lives. It’s a fascinating explainer for biologically-born women’s brains, bodies and behavior. After noting early in her medical education that most of the data in the fields of psychology and neurobiology is mined from studies on men, Brizendine got to fixing that. She writes that she hopes her book will “help women through the various shifts in their lives: shifts so big they actually create changes in a woman’s perception of reality, her value, and what she pays attention to.” And lest you think the research and evolutionary and hormonal focus of the book is too heavy or daunting, don’t worry. Brizendine’s writing is fun and sassy, just as the cover advertises. Quote we love: “Many evolutionary psychologists have speculated that this ability to feel another’s pain and quickly read emotional nuance gave Stone Age women a heads-up to sense potential dangerous or aggressive behavior and thus avoid the consequences to themselves and protect their children.”</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/women-food-and-hormones</loc>
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    <lastmod>2021-12-13</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - Women, Food, and Hormones - Bookshelf: Your hormones</image:title>
      <image:caption>Dr. Sara Gottfried is the OG of hormone helpers in our humble opinion. She was the first doctor we found, via her earlier book, The Hormone Cure, that explained what was going on in our body’s and minds in the hormonal hell of peri-menopause. She was a major inspiration in our launch of AfterShock (thanks Dr. G!) One of the things we found a little daunting in The Hormone Cure was the depth and complexity of information – I guess that happens when you’re a Harvard-educated MD with more than 25 years of experience and four NYTimes bestsellers. In Women, Food and Hormones, she distills her experience and prior books down to a more simple format and a four-week plan. We like that. We’ll review the plan in early 2022. Quote we love: “Grant me the serenity to accept the hormones I cannot change, the courage to change the ones I can, and the wisdom to tell the difference.”</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.aftershockwomen.com/bookreviews/untamed</loc>
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    <priority>0.5</priority>
    <lastmod>2021-12-13</lastmod>
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      <image:title>Book Reviews - Untamed - Bookshelf: Midlife perspectives</image:title>
      <image:caption>This book is hugely popular, reaching #1 on the New York Times bestseller list. Glennon has a wonderful voice and deeply knowing perspective that alternately enrages her early (largely Christian) following and inspires many others. While this book focuses largely on her coming out and marriage to Abby Wambach, there are a lot of lessons about finding ones voice, embracing fear, and finding the gifts in hard lessons that are very pertinent for midlife. A quote we love: “I have noticed that it seems easier for the world to love a suffering woman than it is for the world to love a joyful, confident woman.”</image:caption>
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